On a visit to the grocery store i found these two young ‘uns snuggling…and they weren’t siblings either. Gays perhaps? Well here’s something one ought to know….there’s no sibling rivalry at play here, there’s just love…and in the realm of humans, well, be it opposites, be it male-female, female-female, male-male, it’s all about love…not just sex. so the discrimination is mostly in our heads, and sometimes in our eyes…but what’s all the noise about?
Some of the brightest, most funny friends of mine are gays…and they are warm, fuzzy-logic people who are happy in their own skin. What they may be afraid of is their family…of their disdain, of the derision they have been confronted with time and time again. Some of my gay friends became gay due to lack of love or abuse of the love they offered. They embraced the love they received, and sometimes it was from their own gender.
I know a few women- educated yet trusting, naive even though forewarned, to be raped…and they turned to their own gender for love and yes, all that it encompasses in its human form. So are they to be ostracised for choosing tenderness and joy? Well, as far as Indians go, the answer is yes. Pity.
I know, i know we’ve gone on about how wrong it is- how criminal it is to pass a law that says Gays are Criminals in so many words- but fact remains that we, as a society are not willing to accept its existence in its purest form. Fact is we need partners- not just for procreation, cause that would make us no better than animals. Are we animals? At a very basic level, we are. It doesn’t sound good, because the act in itself could be so much more- the buildup, the foreplay- all that to separate us from the animal world, but at the end of it, it’s the act, and it IS an animal act. Sex is still a taboo topic, mostly. So Gays! O Lord! Let’s not go there. The sufferers may go on suffering within their dark closets, and may the “normal” keep pretending normalcy. Imagine, were my son to come along to me one day and say, “mom, i actually love boys!” Would i be delighted….? Probably not, but i would accept it and say, okay, so no seeds are to be sowed from your loins, but since you love kids, adopt. That would be sensible. But i may secretly hope that he’s straight and i do see grandkids from him. So far so good.
Our country is still developing, and may continue to do so, at least insofar as it’s EQ (emotional quotient) goes, for another 100 odd years. We are loathe to let go of our bias’ starting with the colour bias, pure racism if you ask me, and then of course now the controversial onscreen kiss- which seems to be finally happening. But same sex love? Oooh la la! And we have an SC slapping a verdict on all our faces to boot…What next!
Maybe we are just not old enough, maybe we are not accepting enough, maybe there just enough of us out there willing to put our money where our mouth is, maybe we could take a rain check on where our loyalties lie, maybe we need yet another period where another country dominates us in a manner such as to shake our united conscience and help us take a stand. Not sure quite where the most painful nerve lies- but someone’s got to spear it very soon. My heart goes out to every gay in this country and i pray for a leader…and for someone who can cure the actual malady of bias toward that which seems ‘abnormal and sick’ in our country. Today it’s Gayhood, tomorrow it could be something else…